The In-Between: Navigating Life Transitions and Identity Shifts
There’s a particular kind of discomfort that comes after you’ve let go of an old role, passion, or path—but before you’ve found a new one.
It’s the in-between.
Maybe you left a career that once defined you. Maybe your passion changed, or circumstances made it hard to keep pursuing it. You know the old chapter is closed, but the new one hasn’t quite begun.
Why the In-Between Feels So Uncomfortable
We live in a world that loves labels. What do you do? What’s next for you? What’s your plan?
Without a clear answer, you might feel like you’re failing, drifting, or somehow “behind.”
The truth? The in-between is not a failure—it’s a transition. And like all life transitions, it’s where growth happens, even if it’s not visible yet.
Common Experiences in the In-Between
Periods of identity change or life transition often bring a mix of emotions and uncertainty. You might notice:
Feeling unmoored without a clear identity or direction
Comparing yourself to people with a defined “path”
Worrying you’ll never feel passionate or purposeful again
Flashes of curiosity about new possibilities—followed by doubt
Pressure to “figure it out” quickly, even when you’re not ready
Why This Phase Matters
The in-between is where you get to experiment, rest, and explore without the weight of a fixed identity.
It’s where you start to notice what actually lights you up—beyond obligation or habit. If you skip this stage by rushing into something just to have an answer, you risk ending up in another role that doesn’t truly fit.
This reflective pause is an important part of navigating uncertainty—a time when you can realign your choices with your deeper values and needs.
How to Navigate the In-Between
Give yourself permission – You don’t need a polished label right now.
Explore without commitment – Try small, low-stakes experiments with new interests.
Anchor in values, not roles – Focus on qualities you want to live by, no matter the activity.
Build tolerance for uncertainty – Remind yourself that clarity often comes after exploration, not before.
The in-between isn’t a void—it’s a creative space. It’s where you get to redefine passion, purpose, and identity on your own terms.
Therapy and Life Transitions
Therapy can help you stay grounded in this stage, process the grief of what’s ended, and discover the possibilities that feel right for you. Working with a therapist during times of change or identity transition can help you strengthen self-trust and navigate uncertainty with more confidence.
If you’d like support in navigating a life transition, I offer a free 15-minute consultation. Sessions are available in person in Los Angeles and via telehealth throughout California.
